The 4th trimester
You've reached 12 weeks and we’ve made it through the 4th trimester! Someone recently asked me how I’m doing and my response was “I’m...
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I'm a Mum to a one year old. She is the most amazing little girl full of fun, laughter and cheekiness and being her Mum is just incredible.
However, as much as I love being a Mum, there have been some really difficult times and this is something that's taken me a while to accept is ok.
I've started this page to try and provide an honest account of my journey through pregnancy, birth and motherhood and the reality of the effect all of these had on my mental health and led to me dealing with post-natal depression, post-traumatic disorder and anxiety.
I have struggled with feelings of shame, embarrassment, weakness, failure and guilt. Although I have opened up to a few close people it is still something I very much struggle to talk about freely. It was recently that I was talking to a friend and told her how I had started writing things down and how it was helping. She suggested that if I was to try and make myself talk about it more, maybe it would become easier for me to deal with overtime. It's taken me a while to have the courage, but here I am.
Although I want to be open about the realities of these experiences, I promise it won't all be doom and gloom as there are so many incredible things about being a Mum. After everything, it is still the best thing I have ever done!
If by sharing my experiences I help one person to feel less alone, it will have been worth it!
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"Being a Mother is learning about strengths you didn’t know you had...and dealing with fears you didn’t know existed."
Linda Wooten
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